Ultimate Guide to Remembrance Candles at Weddings
How Remembrance Candles Bring Meaning to Celebrant Ceremonies
I’m a wedding celebrant based outside of Leeds, West Yorkshire. I adore curating wedding ceremonies which are personal to you; ceremonies which are fully tailored to your unique style and tastes. My ceremonies are filled to the brim with personal touches and memorable moments; they evoke memories to last and relive forever and capture your true essence in every bespoke detail.
As a wedding celebrant, I’ve been so privileged to witness countless beautiful and heartfelt moments, but there’s something uniquely powerful about the inclusion of a remembrance candle in a wedding ceremony. It’s a simple gesture, but one that carries immense weight, weaving love, loss, and memory into the fabric of a couple’s special day.
For many couples, the joy of their wedding day can feel bittersweet when someone dear is no longer here to share it. It’s a feeling I’ve seen time and again, and it’s something we all understand—the longing for that loved one to be present for this milestone moment. Yet, while the absence of someone special can feel painful, a remembrance candle offers a way to honour them in a manner that feels deeply personal, yet subtle and celebratory.
One couple I worked with lit a remembrance candle during their ceremony to honour a parent who had passed. The moment was quiet and reflective—a family member lit the candle while a favorite song played softly in the background. The act itself wasn’t heavy with sadness; instead, it radiated warmth and love, allowing their parent’s presence to be felt without overshadowing the joy of the day.
A Remembrance Candle With Meaning
The beauty of a remembrance candle ritual in your wedding ceremony, is its flexibility and personalisation. You can choose to make it part of the ceremony in countless ways. Perhaps you’d like to light the candle yourselves as a couple, or you may invite a loved one to light it on your behalf; or maybe you’d simply like me to light it before the ceremony begins. Some couples incorporate a few words from a family member or a friend, while others prefer to simply let the candle speak for itself. You might select a candle holder engraved with a meaningful quote, use a favourite scent to evoke a memory, or even place the candle alongside cherished photographs.
It’s also important to note that remembrance candles don’t have to bring a solemn tone to your ceremony if that’s not what you want. While it’s natural to feel the absence of someone special, the candle can serve as a celebratory nod to their life and love—a mindful way to include their memory without creating a sense of heaviness.
Taken from a wedding this year in Nottinghamshire.
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As your celebrant, I can help you find the balance that feels right for you. Together, we’ll explore how this meaningful ritual can fit seamlessly into your ceremony, ensuring it reflects your love story while honouring your loved ones in a way that feels authentic and uplifting.
Your wedding day is about celebrating love—your love for each other, your shared history, and the people who’ve supported you along the way. A remembrance candle is just one of the many thoughtful ways we can make your ceremony truly yours.
If you’d like to learn more about remembrance candles or other meaningful touches we can incorporate into your wedding day, feel free to get in touch. I’d be honoured to help craft a ceremony that tells your story in the most heartfelt and unforgettable way.
To find out more about my services, please do get in touch. I offer a free, no-obligatory discovery call over zoom which is a great way to discuss your requirements in more detail and find out if we are a good fit.
Michelle x
