Handtying in celebrant-led Wedding Ceremonies: August 2023
Symbolic Rituals give you the itch?
Symbolic Rituals are a term which have become synonymous with celebrant-led ceremonies. In truth, it can be a term which is unsettling for some couples. Particularly the word ’ritual.’ Slightly bohemian and mystical images may spring to mind which for some are enticing. For others, it can make them want to run for cover. Try not to be alarmed though; whilst they have become a popular choice for couples seeking to create a unique and memorable ceremony, it’s not the only way a celebrant can personalise your ceremony. In fact, Symbolic ceremonies are just one of the many wonderful gifts a celebrant can bring to a wedding ceremony.
A good wedding celebrant will always take the time to find out how they can curate a wedding ceremony which is right for you and you should never be made to do anything that leaves you feeling uncomfortable.
Personally, I find symbolic rituals to be meaningful, beautiful and visually stimulating. I’ve spoken before about just some of the symbolic rituals on offer in previous blog posts, but allow me now to take a minute and demystify the ritual that is: ‘Handtying.’ This time-honored ritual is making a comeback in modern weddings. Let me explain how this stunning ‘ritual’ could be the thing that’s missing from your wedding ceremony.
The Origins of Handtying:
Handfasting can be traced back to ancient Celtic traditions, where couples would publicly declare their intention to marry by binding their hands together with ribbons or cords. This act symbolised their commitment, unity, and the joining of two families. Over the years, handfasting has evolved and adapted to different cultures and beliefs, and today it remains a cherished ceremony in many modern weddings. Handtying is a modern-day interpretation of handfasting; essentially, it is a little simpler but just as symbolic.
The Modern day symbolism of Handtying:
Unity and Connection: Handtying serves as a beautiful representation of the couple's desire for unity and connection. As the couple's hands are gently tied together, it symbolises the coming together of their lives, hearts, and souls. It is a powerful visual reminder that they are embarking on a shared journey, facing the joys and challenges of life together.
Commitment and Bond: The act of handftying symbolises a deep commitment between two individuals. By intertwining their hands, the couple expresses their willingness to support and care for one another throughout their lives. The cords or ribbons used in the ceremony serve as a physical reminder of this sacred bond, one that can be cherished long after the wedding day.
Infinite Love and Infinite Time: Handtying can also represent the timeless nature of love. As the cords are tied, they form an infinite knot, signifying that the couple's love knows no bounds and endures beyond the constraints of time. It is a powerful symbol of everlasting love and a testament to the enduring commitment the couple shares.
Incorporating Handtying into Modern Weddings:
Today, handfasting has become a ritual easily customised so that couples can adapt it to suit their preferences and beliefs. Here are some ways to incorporate handfasting into a modern wedding:
Choose Meaningful Materials: Consider selecting cords or ribbons that hold significance for you and your partner. They can represent your heritage, favorite colours, or even incorporate elements that hold personal meaning, such as fabric from a cherished garment or a family heirloom.
Personalise the Ceremony: Work closely with your wedding celebrant or officiant to create a handfasting ceremony that aligns with your values and desires. Customise the vows and incorporate readings or blessings that resonate with you as a couple. This will ensure that the ritual reflects your unique journey and love story.
Involve Loved Ones: Handfasting can be a beautiful way to involve loved ones in your ceremony. Consider inviting family members or close friends to participate by assisting in the tying of the cords or offering blessings and well-wishes. Their involvement adds an extra layer of warmth and support to the ceremony.
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I’d love to know your thoughts on this stunning ritual. Have you ever experienced it first-hand and what did you think?
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